Compulsory Masculinity is Murder

***TRIGGER WARNING FOR GENDER BULLYING   Not sure if I can write this with the kind of sensitivity it warrants. I don’t even know if I can write it at all, because I’ve been crying  for the past hour. But

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Compulsory Masculinity is Murder

***TRIGGER WARNING FOR GENDER BULLYING   Not sure if I can write this with the kind of sensitivity it warrants. I don’t even know if I can write it at all, because I’ve been crying  for the past hour. But

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“Skinny jeans” vs “Boyfriend jeans”: Girl power rocks!

Back to school means so many different things to different people. For parents of school-age kids, there’s a squaring of shoulders, a tightening of jaw as the long shadows of the school year loom. Bed-time fascism, meal planning anxiety, upping

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“Skinny jeans” vs “Boyfriend jeans”: Girl power rocks!

Back to school means so many different things to different people. For parents of school-age kids, there’s a squaring of shoulders, a tightening of jaw as the long shadows of the school year loom. Bed-time fascism, meal planning anxiety, upping

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Topless Girl-on-Girl Action: A Muslimah’s Response to the FEMEN Protests

Once again my religion has been hijacked- this time not by gun-toting lunatics or explosives experts, but by boobs and banners. The now infamous ‘Breast-Fest’2013 staged by members of FEMEN outside masajid throughout Europe, caused a stirring in the Islamic…

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Topless Girl-on-Girl Action: A Muslimah’s Response to the FEMEN Protests

Once again my religion has been hijacked- this time not by gun-toting lunatics or explosives experts, but by boobs and banners. The now infamous ‘Breast-Fest’2013 staged by members of FEMEN outside masajid throughout Europe, caused a stirring in the Islamic…

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Anti-racist education. Your kid could use some.

You may think that the last thing your child needs is anti-racist educational resources. You’re so cutting edge, no spawn that issued from your radical loins could ever be anything other than the leader of the revolution of righteousestness.  Then

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Anti-racist education. Your kid could use some.

You may think that the last thing your child needs is anti-racist educational resources. You’re so cutting edge, no spawn that issued from your radical loins could ever be anything other than the leader of the revolution of righteousestness.  Then

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More Good Books for Girls

Just found this site, more good books for girls (maybe for boys, too?)…

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More Good Books for Girls

Just found this site, more good books for girls (maybe for boys, too?)…

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Mothers of The Patriarchy

“My wife had a nasty accident with the car this morning. She backed it out of the garage, completely forgetting that the night before, she had backed it in.” I’ve often wondered if the expression, “I bust my gut laughing”

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Mothers of The Patriarchy

“My wife had a nasty accident with the car this morning. She backed it out of the garage, completely forgetting that the night before, she had backed it in.” I’ve often wondered if the expression, “I bust my gut laughing”

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If you look at nothing else this year…

This may be the most amazing picture I’ve ever seen. Footwear. How could I have forgotten the power of footwear? (via I am oppressed. | Too oppressed to…roll up to my wedding in my two….)

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If you look at nothing else this year…

This may be the most amazing picture I’ve ever seen. Footwear. How could I have forgotten the power of footwear? (via I am oppressed. | Too oppressed to…roll up to my wedding in my two….)

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TV and your precious offspring: Learning to dance with the devil

My kids watch TV. Not proud of it. Hate it, in fact. This (amongst several massive elephants in the room) was not part of my rosy, soft-focus dreams of child-rearing. I’m not going to try to explain or justify it.

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TV and your precious offspring: Learning to dance with the devil

My kids watch TV. Not proud of it. Hate it, in fact. This (amongst several massive elephants in the room) was not part of my rosy, soft-focus dreams of child-rearing. I’m not going to try to explain or justify it.

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The right story could save the universe

Sometimes the grey area is beautiful. That’s where we are right now, me and my girls, in the liminal place where the edges of truth are still blurry, where my version of how things are and how they should be

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The right story could save the universe

Sometimes the grey area is beautiful. That’s where we are right now, me and my girls, in the liminal place where the edges of truth are still blurry, where my version of how things are and how they should be

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Slight change of plans

Some news! Sooo…those of you who have been paying attention may have noticed that despite the mention of four fab mamas in the (former) “About” description of this blog, I was not-so-surreptitiously full-on hogging the spotlight. Following a quick check-in

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Slight change of plans

Some news! Sooo…those of you who have been paying attention may have noticed that despite the mention of four fab mamas in the (former) “About” description of this blog, I was not-so-surreptitiously full-on hogging the spotlight. Following a quick check-in

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Oh, that ever-thickening princess plot

I first started thinking about this post in mid-September, as my four year old was settling into her new preschool. On the whole, I was awash with relief – it’s a co-op, and while there’s nothing overtly political about it,

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Oh, that ever-thickening princess plot

I first started thinking about this post in mid-September, as my four year old was settling into her new preschool. On the whole, I was awash with relief – it’s a co-op, and while there’s nothing overtly political about it,

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Before you order the popcorn…

I may have been the last person to discover the Bechdel Test Movie list, but the standardized test nerd in me loves it. What’s not to love about a database that will give you a very quick sense of whether you’re about

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Before you order the popcorn…

I may have been the last person to discover the Bechdel Test Movie list, but the standardized test nerd in me loves it. What’s not to love about a database that will give you a very quick sense of whether you’re about

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The great dance-off for my daughters’ souls

Cross-posted at masalamommas.com Some of you are not going to like what I’m about to say. And I’ll admit, a lot of it will be poorly-informed, culturally biased, and overall kind of feelingsy. That said, I’m allowed my feelings. So with

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The great dance-off for my daughters’ souls

Cross-posted at masalamommas.com Some of you are not going to like what I’m about to say. And I’ll admit, a lot of it will be poorly-informed, culturally biased, and overall kind of feelingsy. That said, I’m allowed my feelings. So with

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…And then we played Cinderella

You heard right. The four year old asked me to play Cinderella with her and it was not a surprise. The entire platoon of Disney princesses had already stolen their way into our house last year via a single pirate

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…And then we played Cinderella

You heard right. The four year old asked me to play Cinderella with her and it was not a surprise. The entire platoon of Disney princesses had already stolen their way into our house last year via a single pirate

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The Birthday Imperative

One summer when I was about ten years old, it happened that most of my massive extended family were in the same city at the same time. So naturally, we did what anybody in that situation would do. We had

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The Birthday Imperative

One summer when I was about ten years old, it happened that most of my massive extended family were in the same city at the same time. So naturally, we did what anybody in that situation would do. We had

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/ Toys

Good things for boys? :(

Taken by Meerchi at the SF MOMA… I have to say, the packaging was so appealing (despite the 1950s gendering), it inspired me to look into the company behind it.  And it made me so sad, because really, who wants

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/ Toys

Good things for boys? :(

Taken by Meerchi at the SF MOMA… I have to say, the packaging was so appealing (despite the 1950s gendering), it inspired me to look into the company behind it.  And it made me so sad, because really, who wants

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The Good Men Project

Just discovering this group, very interesting. Also the gender updated version of Richard Scarry’s Best Word Book Ever is reassuring…right?

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The Good Men Project

Just discovering this group, very interesting. Also the gender updated version of Richard Scarry’s Best Word Book Ever is reassuring…right?

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Empowering girls…or cashing in on (visual) ethno-cultural stereotypes?

Ok folks, what do you think of this? Have to say I haven’t read the book, or gone through the cards, so I’m happy to be wrist-slapped for knee-jerk cynicism… http://www.7wonderlicious.com/

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Empowering girls…or cashing in on (visual) ethno-cultural stereotypes?

Ok folks, what do you think of this? Have to say I haven’t read the book, or gone through the cards, so I’m happy to be wrist-slapped for knee-jerk cynicism… http://www.7wonderlicious.com/

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Dear Pre-school: Boys are not ringmasters, girls are not wind-up dolls

Here’s the letter I just sent to my kid’s pre-school. Interested to see how they will respond. Dear **************, Since the last day of the school year last week I have been thinking a lot about a few things, and

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Dear Pre-school: Boys are not ringmasters, girls are not wind-up dolls

Here’s the letter I just sent to my kid’s pre-school. Interested to see how they will respond. Dear **************, Since the last day of the school year last week I have been thinking a lot about a few things, and

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SOS Feminist Pre-Schooling

Following a freakish experience where I arrived at my four year old’s pre-school end of year show to gawk at boys dressed as ringleaders in top hats with pretend whips and girls in tutus with pink circle cheeks and drawn

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SOS Feminist Pre-Schooling

Following a freakish experience where I arrived at my four year old’s pre-school end of year show to gawk at boys dressed as ringleaders in top hats with pretend whips and girls in tutus with pink circle cheeks and drawn

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